Daisy let Fox, the smooth talkin' hair dresser, stay after he told her he had… or has…. or had a girlfriend before he left to be on her show. Daisy, and her silicon valley, forgave Fox, and did not eliminate him on the grounds that
A: She did the same thing to Brett Micheals. She admitted that she broke up with her boyfriend, but still lived with him… and still slept in the same bed… hmmm.
B: She has the hots for Foxy, and his sexy theme music.
Not only is this wrong because 1) it is implying that she is a slave for her attraction to Fox, and 2: because it gives the idea that going with a man who is willing to walk out on his girlfriend to feel up on this delicate flower is o.k. Tell you the truth, I couldn’t care less. Hey I think the chick is cute in all her “I’m sooooo punk ROCKER!” glory, I mean who am I to judge the 20-something? But I have a big problem with the message that is being sent to the young, and more impressionable women of tomorrow.
The show, like all “love” shows revolve around this concept of “competing to win” someone’s love. Where a girl like Daisy plays a sexy sex kitten ready to find love in a sea of horny men. The difference of a Love show with a male star, is that Daisy is obliged to give Tool Box, the exotic dancer, a second chance after belting out “All we need are some b*tches!” on the first night. While Brett Micheals, the star of 3 Love shows, is not.
Another point that urks me about this show. Women, as well as men have stereotypes that harm us. Me, being a natural blonde, does not appreciate how finely Daisy fits into the blonde bimbo stereotype. Other than her over the top breasts, I would hope that the show would take a second to show how intelligent and sophisticated Daisy is. Wait, what? The point is the show obsessed way too much on her sexuality.
In the “Daisy of Love” show, Daisy is portrayed as an innocent, sex object that these men are fighting to win like a trophy. This deeply saddens me, because we live in a world where violent crimes against women are an every day. Women are taken advantage of, and I don’t mean to say it is all little Daisy’s fault, but there is NO DOUBT that the way women are portrayed in media has an effect on how every day women are treated. VH1 is not taking into consideration, what a young girl would think watching that show, and what impression we are leaving on young boys. Violence starts with people seeing others as objects.
In refute to that, many people would say “well it’s the parents fault”. Instead of playing the blame game, lets take into consideration that the vast majority of parents don’t care. Why should they? If the general public don’t either. It’s partly caused by immaturity, as So many teenage and unplanned pregnancies happen today, more than ever. But it’s mostly because of ignorance. Too many people say that advertising is just selling products.
Why would a women support this though? Why would they put themselves out as Daisy and so many women do? Again, most of it is ignorance. Most of it is low self esteem. A lot of it is rooted at birth. Women are socially conditioned to think a certain way. To not take up to much room, to not make too much noise. To keep an image of perfect beauty, something that we are taught we can achieve by buying the right products or knowing all the tricks. Our bodies are constantly scrutinized and pieced apart by the media. A poll was taken that showed that most woman feel like beauty is an obligation not a right. How can this be? That we can so out rightly be put as “objects”. Well most women don’t really feel obliged to speak up. Wonder why.
I’ve pondered this for ages, and will probably continue. Look forward to more blogs on this subject.
To learn more about Woman's image in the media, watch Killing Us Softly by Jean Kilbourne, probably the most comprehensive source for citizens on the subject of medias appearance.
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